A Date With Death



Once, when I was doing a tarot reading, a client ask me if I could tell her when she was going to die. I don’t know if she was being smart, thinking she could expose me as a charlatan, or whether she just wanted reassurance that she was going to live a long healthy life.

Either way my answer would still be the same. No, I can not tell you when you are going to die and here is why.

The main, and most important reason is because as human beings, we always have free will. If I told her that she was going to die on September 1, 2020 in a car accident, I guarantee she would make sure that on that particular day, she would be no where near any cars, or even a street for that matter. Instead, as a precaution, she might just hunker down in her bed and wait for the day to be over with.

We always have the power to make different choices in our lives.  Once we do, our new decisions also change the outcome of the choices we have made in the past. A bad person can change his morals, begin to act with integrity, and become a good person. An unhealthy person can change her diet, take up jogging and become healthy.  The point is, every moment of every day we all have the ability to choose how we live our lives.

The second reason I would never be able to predict her date with death is, while we have free will and can choose our own destiny, there is also the element of fate which comes into play when we least expect it. Even if you have every minute of every day in your life planned out, fate can throw you a curve ball that alters your life forever. Fate is random and comes with out warning. It is the wild card and one never knows when that card may be dealt.

One of fates favourite tools is mother nature. Just today alone three people died in the Philippines by rogue waves brought on by an incoming typhoon. I’m pretty sure those folks never would have planned that surprise of fate as part of their days activities.

And who would want to know the date of their death anyway? Who would want that kind of knowledge hanging over their life?

“I’m sorry I won’t be able to make that appointment next Thursday, that’s the day I’m booked to die. Can we meet on Wednesday instead?”

How would your life change if you knew your personal expiration date? Would you live your life more fully, take greater chances, be a little wilder? And would your life be relatively safe from death until that date, or could fate still intervene?

Perhaps you would live in a state of dread while you wait for your demise. No point going in for any long term goals knowing you won’t be able to complete them. Would the fear of death paralyze your everyday life?

I think in this case ignorance is truly bliss. The mystery of life and of death is what keeps our lives magical. We can never know what tomorrow will bring. The unknown is what keeps life interesting.

I’m pretty sure there isn’t anyone out there who can tell you exactly when you are going to die. I haven’t heard of any mystical prophets with that kind of ability. Have you?

What I do know for sure is that the past is over, it can’t hurt us anymore. The present is a gift and all we really have in this moment, so enjoy it to the fullest.

But when it comes to the future and that inevitable date with death, take my advice, get on the phone right now and cancel it.

Published by Diana Frajman

Wisdom blogger who believes that the wise older woman is the most powerful brand females come in.

8 thoughts on “A Date With Death

  1. I certainly don’t want to know when or how I’m going to die. If I knew, I’m sure I would change the way I was living based on that knowledge. Or, maybe not – if I was told that I would die in my sleep when I was 87 years old, I would keep living the way I am living. My youngest is going through a phase where she worries about a lot of things (she’s 7). Last night she came into our room late a night and was worrying that strangers were going to break through our bedroom window and kill us. – okay, NO more watching the evening news for you young lady! I told her that this thought is not worth her time, and that these horrible things hardly ever happen, so worrying about them is not okay. After this little pep-talk she fell fast asleep. No need to worry about what may be. Just keep living so that your life is the way you want it to be. Great post, Diana!

    1. Thanks. When my husband is away and I am by myself, I sometimes get a little nervous about break ins. I live in a safe neighborhood. So to get a grip I rationalize the fact by remembering that there us not a shining billboard on top of my house pointing out the fact that a woman is inside the house alone. Nobody but me knows there is only one person living here. For some reason that seems to work. 😊

      1. I am the SAME way when my husband leaves – which is usually just once a year. It’s amazing how safe they can make us feel. <3

  2. I don’t believe anyone can predict a death. However, I do believe some people do have a sense of when death is approaching.
    My Mom was one of those people. She died very unexpectedly at home. I found her sitting at the kitchen table thinking she had fallen asleep. The week before she had called some of my sisters with words of encouragement and love. We later discovered she had also canceled a Dr.’s apt a few days prior to her death.
    Looking back I believe she knew, accepted, and was where she wanted to be when her time came. In the home she loved….where Dad died too.

    1. On that I would agree. My mom was taken to the hospital because a virus but felt for some reason she felt she was not going to leave. She died a couple of days later of a massive heart attack.
      To me that is an inner knowing but I will say that someone else can not predict your death but perhaps for insightful souls they feel the call for their soul come return to source.

  3. I certainly don’t want to know when I’m going to die, although I did decide a few years ago that I’m leaving when I’m 92 LOL that’s what I keep on telling my kids. Oh, and I also want to die in bed in my sleep. So I guess I have put in my order. 🙂

    1. I want die how my grandpa died.
      My grandma went into the kitchen to make a snack while they watched the late night news. She was talking to him from the kitchen and when she returned to the living room my grandpa was dead in his favorite chair. She said he looked so at peace.
      I like that. Times up, goodbye. Easy peasey. 😊

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